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Breaking the Silence with #MeToo

12/7/2017

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Photograph of lioness roaring. Dr. Jennifer Chain speaks about the impact of the #MeToo movement in this blog post.
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Dr. Jennifer Chain is the President and Owner of Thrive for the People. 

Breaking the Silence with #MeToo

The recent tidal wave of women speaking up about their sexual harassment and sexual assault experiences is the culminations of years, decades, centuries of pent up fury and silence. The #MeToo movement is growing stronger and louder every day, led by courageous individuals in the public sphere and in my personal circles on social media. I have been wanting to write a blog post about this topic for awhile; it has taken me some time to digest the growing accounts of sexual violence and make sense of my own reactions.
As I am writing this post I am still not sure I can clearly articulate my emotions related to all of this. As a woman of color and a survivor of countless sexual harassment experiences, my first reaction is of fierce pride for the individuals who have risked so much to speak up. My second reaction is of disgust at the perpetrators who have abused their power for so long with the assumption that their behaviors will be protected and rewarded. My third reaction is of anger at our society for creating and maintaining a system that benefits perpetrators and perpetuates sexual violence.  In this blog post, I want to address the question that I often hear asked about survivors of sexual violence: if this really happened, why didn't they speak up before?
Black and white photo of women protesting. The #MeToo movement has opened up a conversation about sexual violence and harassment. Therapy can help with managing the trauma and hurt that follows these experiences. Begin trauma therapy with a Ballard therapist.

Why Now Are We Hearing So Many #MeToo Stories?

There are many reasons why we may not have heard about this volume of sexual violence incidents until now. First, these stories are not new, we have chosen as individuals and as a society to ignore them. For example, see the documentary The Hunting Ground for information on the staggering number of sexual assaults on college campuses and the length to which the institutions go to protect perpetrators. Second, when survivors have spoken up, we have been invalidated, disbelieved, shamed, silenced, and threatened by our perpetrators, friends, family, partners, employers, schools, government, and society. Third, survivors face real danger of losing our education, jobs, reputation, relationships, and yes, even our lives, for breaking the silence. Fourth, the question itself casts doubts on the motives and credibility of the survivors, which in turn, contributes to the silencing of survivors. ​
The Time article on Person of the Year: The Silence Breakers, profiled the amazing individuals who shared their stories of sexual violence. The article does a great job of describing the terror that many face when they experience sexual violence and the impossible decisions they often have to make (my job vs. my dignity, my livelihood vs. my safety, my duty vs. my personhood). It also highlights so many nuances and unanswered questions we are grappling with as a society in this moment. My own questions include: How do we make sense of this as people who may have intentionally or unintentionally perpetrated and condoned sexual violence (by being silent bystanders, by laughing at our buddies' behaviors, by blaming the survivors, etc.)? How can we heal from this and restore trust between people? How can we create a better society for the next generation? 
Share your thoughts about sexual violence and breaking the silence in the comment section below. ​

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All around us we hear the call of empowerment, bravery, and reclaiming your voice. These stories can uplift us while still reminding us of the pain we've experienced. If you are struggling with trauma due to sexual assault, there is help available. If you are feeling overwhelmed or exhausted by the constant news cycle, you are not alone. Our team of therapists can help. Schedule a free 15-minute phone consultation today to see if we might be a good fit for your needs. 
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